a New Year, a New You
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If you have tried New Year’s Resolutions and have failed – this program is for you. If you know that you are capable of more – this program is for you. If you have a general idea of how you want to change but lack clarity, confidence, or accountability – this program is for you. If you have a big dream, but it feels to big to even start – this program is for you. If you have a plan, but keep procrastinating – this program is for you. |
If you desire any of the following
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Put You, not your Habits, in Control of your life
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Lets get real - New Year’s resolutions, even when we are dead serious when we make them, are no more resolute than a wish. Making a resolution has about as much chance of helping us attain the life we want as tossing a coin into a fountain. In fact, tossing a coin may have a better chance of success because it employs a few key tools of success: spending the quarter (investment), making a pilgrimage to the fountain (taking action), making the wish (creative visualization). But in the end, tossing a coin in the fountain is really just a wish because it lacks grounding in proven tools of change. In case you are expecting a ‘lets get real’ speech that evangelizes discipline, hard work, and sacrifice as the most important agents of change, you will be happy to hear that reliance on these is actually more a deterrent to change because the most important agent of change is a feeling of effortless ease. |
Can change really be effortless? Through using proven change tools including proper planning and a good support system, yes, it can be almost effortless |
Can change really be effortless?
Through using proven change techniques including proper planning and a good support system, yes, it can be almost effortless - if you avoid the most common missteps.
Misstep – Trying to change too much at once
When we try to change many things at once overwhelm becomes the dominant experience. And when overwhelm is engaged we retreat back to our familiar habits.
Misstep – Making a generic goal
‘Lose weight’ or ‘Be more compassionate’ are too generic to really focus on so they become slippery and we lose our grip on them.
Misstep – Setting arbitrary or unrealistic deadlines
Deadlines can be great motivators but they need to be realistic. A vital component of success is to establish specific and attainable benchmarks.
Misstep – Abandoning the goal after one missed action
When we put a lot of determination behind our resolution it often turns it into an all or nothing mindset. So when we make one backslide, which lets face it, we will backslide, then we abandon the whole project.
Misstep – Being idealistic in goal setting
When we focus on becoming the ideal version of ourselves we are living in the myth of perfection rather than what is attainable. This keeps us in constant self-criticism which steals our energy and sets us up for failure.
Misstep – Failing to use proven agents of change
When we forget to use or don’t have access to key components of successful and effortless change (like accountability structures, motivation, progress tracking, just to name a few) we set ourselves up for failure.
The most powerful misstep of all:
Misstep – Not believing you are powerful enough to overcome the resistance to truly change
While we might be facing some real challenges to making a change in our lives (time, energy, other commitments, etc), our biggest challenges are confidence and the habits of our own excuses. If, when you think of what you want to change and the next thought is ‘yes, but…’, then the excuse monster is in charge. It is time to take your power back.
You have the power to change yourself and your world.
It is time to own it.
Transform in 2020
Take your power back by using proven change techniques from well established thought leaders including:
Take your power back by using proven change techniques from well established thought leaders including:
- Byron Katie's The Work
- James Clear's Atomic Habits
- the Enneagram
- Buddhist Science of Mind
- and more
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In this program you will:
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Tailored to You
We will partner together to create a customized program that embraces your vision, utilizes your learning styles, and celebrates your unique way of being.
With proper planning and a good support system that utilize proven change techniques you will be able to transform your life in the coming year.
Start your 2020 Transformation with a 90 Day Challenge
The Transform in 2020 - 90 Day Challenge
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The Transform in 2020 - 90 Day Challenge includes:
Valued at $795 Transform in 2020 with the 90 Day Challenge for $650 |
You have the power to change yourself and your world.
It is time to own it.
Why use Life Coaching?
Growth and change inevitably includes struggle. Challenges arise as new ways of being and perceiving bump up to old ways of doing things, old ways of being with people, old ways of perceiving what is possible for ourselves and our lives. This is where coaching makes all the difference.
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You can't see your blind spots. You can't see your assumptions. Your habits are invisible to you. Your fears hide in your subconscious. And your feelings just make a mess of everything. |
A life coach helps to make visible the invisible. A coach will catch you as you fall in to old ways of being and give you instant feedback, will keep you moving forward by helping you to maintain your inspiration and motivation, will help you navigate your relationships when the changes you are creating in your life begin to impact the lives of others, and will keep you ‘woke’ and living in choice as you create a life that is truly worth living.
There is no 1,2,3 process to leading a happy life. Each of us is unique. Each of our experiences and ways of being are unique, each of the ways we get in our own way are unique. A life coach partners with you to ease and quicken the journey toward your vision of a life well lived.
This is how I coach. Not as a bubbly cheerleader, but as a partner who befriends the highest part of you as well as the part of you that you have kept hidden away from the light; and as an accountability partner who is also your enthusiastic advocate along the road to wholeness.
There is no 1,2,3 process to leading a happy life. Each of us is unique. Each of our experiences and ways of being are unique, each of the ways we get in our own way are unique. A life coach partners with you to ease and quicken the journey toward your vision of a life well lived.
This is how I coach. Not as a bubbly cheerleader, but as a partner who befriends the highest part of you as well as the part of you that you have kept hidden away from the light; and as an accountability partner who is also your enthusiastic advocate along the road to wholeness.
Why work with me?
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I have always been a seeker, a questioner, looking for truth and how to live a better life, how to heal myself. I am an introvert who loves ideas. And I have lived with various levels of depression all of my life. In my twenties and thirties I sought to heal myself through investigating deeply into many Eastern spiritualities through reading, in depth classes, and retreats with masters. I was striving to fix myself through listening to the wisdom that has remained alive through the ages. I seeped my mind in interactions with different ways of thinking about and living in the world. That wisdom opened my mind to new perceptions and I did change; my suffering diminished and I began to move through the world in a different way. I even created Retreat Finder, as a way to help fellow seekers like myself. But struggle and depression continued to be my primary experience, and deepened with a series of health crises that I now understand to be Environmental Illness aka Multiple Chemical Sensitivity. |
Certified Professional Integrative Coach
Read Alec's Bio
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I mention all of this because it was not until I began working through my inquiry directly with another person that my life truly began to change for the better. There is a magic that happens when working with a trained person through the act of engaging in dialog; hearing responses from another person to my own thoughts, perceptions and interpretations of wisdom teachings; being directly challenged; and exploring through questions tailored to evoke an opening in my perspective.
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I just needed a bit of assistance in getting out of my own way and accountability to actually show up for myself. |
Through this process I moved from living in what ‘could be’ or ‘should be’ and dropped into living in what is; the present moment, the truth of the lived experience and all the possibility that exists in every moment (if we are brave enough to see it), and the truth of my own heart. I began to live in my authenticity. I just needed a bit of assistance in getting out of my own way and accountability to actually show up for myself.
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This is why I became a certified professional life coach. I have experienced the power of coaching for myself and see that one-on-one or small group engagement is what is needed to move from just thinking about how things can be better to actually changing your life.
Who gets the most out of working with me?
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If you are actively working to improve your life through self-development work but are not seeing the improvement you seek. If you desire to be of help to others. If you believe that your self-development will improve your positive impact on the world. If you are comfortable with being challenged and with receiving honest feedback. If you are curious and open to new perspectives and possibilities "Alec is a deeply intuitive, empathetic and insightful coach! I HIGHLY recommend hiring her if you are seeking support around your next steps and aligning with your fullest potential." - Laurel, Tucson, AZ |
"I sought out life coaching when I felt a need to kick start my spiritual practices and be more engaged in community. Alec was an attentive listener, poised and kind, and able to read through a lot my emotion to help me in the ways I needed it most. I recommend her for anyone seeking out coaching with a spiritual intention, or the desire to make a practical life change." - Daniel, Reno, NV |
"I have become more outgoing and seen the benefits of putting myself out there. I’ve overcome some fears of meeting new people and potentially failing in front of them (in terms of my creative work). Alec helped me hone in on what my real problems were and helped me develop plans to confront them and change things for the better."
- Marc, Los Angeles, CA
- Marc, Los Angeles, CA
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